tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1140128926178904860.post6497848041985854760..comments2023-04-04T04:45:30.828-07:00Comments on Up and Away Blog!!: TWO KINDS OF HEALINGmarsh to the forehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11077038843846480659noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1140128926178904860.post-26549218408373294132009-04-22T09:11:00.000-07:002009-04-22T09:11:00.000-07:00What lovely, thoughtful comments. Kerri, thanks f...What lovely, thoughtful comments. Kerri, thanks for the hugs. I needed them today. This post really helped. I was floundering around not knowing what was wrong but of course it was dealing with that death again.<br /><br />HtH, after I wrote the blog piece (thank you for your comment on it. I didn't think about what I was writing, it just was there) I went back to what I had written the day before for RUN which I thought was terrible and found it OK. Maybe not brilliant, but it would do for a first draft. I also had some really fun, creative thoughts for the story which showed the creative juices haven't dried up.<br /><br />HW I am thinking about doing a memorial for David. I've thought of it before, just haven't done anything about it but feel this is the time. Something I'd have here or could take with me, maybe something I could frame: that ridiculous bucket hat he used to wear for his fishing group; a little canoe I'm sure was meant for he and Ruthie and their lake place which I somehow didn't send them which reminds me of a ride we took together on the lake at his lake place, and of course pictures of how I remember him. Centered would be his last email of any consequence to me which I just call "Chickens" because that's what he called it. I'm not sure but that's what I'm thinking for now.<br /><br />Kerri, I have felt like some part of him was with me sometimes but those feelings have been few and far between. Maybe at some point they'll come back.<br /><br />Thanks for these beautiful thoughts.marsh to the forehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11077038843846480659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1140128926178904860.post-39437115337074958802009-04-21T18:48:00.000-07:002009-04-21T18:48:00.000-07:00beautiful post. I was just thinking about you yes...beautiful post. I was just thinking about you yesterday as I realized I was finally having stretches of good days, hoping you were having them too.<br /><br />As Hth says, healing happens in stages. And acknowledging death doesn't me we don't miss them terribly sometimes. <br /><br />You could always have a headstone made for David. I know people who are cremated that still do that to give mourners a place to visit. Or you could visit the lake and remember him there. He'd probably like that.Heidi Willishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18420802651029097379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1140128926178904860.post-86432512922714095842009-04-21T16:44:00.000-07:002009-04-21T16:44:00.000-07:00I wish the sadness could be taken away and only le...I wish the sadness could be taken away and only leave the comforting memories. <br /><br />Don't worry about the words, though... it will all come back to you when you are ready. <br /><br />I think this kind of heartbroken healing takes much longer than we expect, and it has so many stages. You are allowed to feel what you're feeling - remember that.<br /><br />Thank you for this thoughtful post. You say you can't write, but look what you just did.Heidi the Hickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00639479864903922047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1140128926178904860.post-50146514666023492942009-04-21T16:29:00.000-07:002009-04-21T16:29:00.000-07:00I believe that some small part of him made its way...I believe that some small part of him made its way to you. (((hugs)))Kerrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13123599839884840143noreply@blogger.com